Navigating the Holidays with Gentle Parenting
Feeling overwhelmed or anxious about the holidays? Whether you've faced challenges due to differing parenting choices or are concerned about family dynamics, this guide offers Gentle Parenting tips for a more peaceful holiday season.
Perhaps you’ve had negative experiences in the past with people giving you grief over your parenting choices. Or maybe you grew up in a less than ideal family dynamic and are worried how this will affect you or your child. These are all common and valid concerns.
Set Boundaries:
Empower Your Child with Thoughtful Boundaries
Write a list of the boundaries you already have or need to set. For example, prioritise consent—allow your child to express comfort levels with physical interactions, such as hugging or kissing family members. Be their advocate in navigating social situations.
Addition: Explore 'Tricky People,' a children's book addressing consent, body autonomy, and instincts.
Sneak Away for Self-Care:
Embrace Serenity with Moments of Solitude
Amidst the holiday hustle, take moments to step away and find a quiet space for a rejuvenating 'time out.' Managing the busyness ensures a calmer experience, especially in crowded family gatherings.
Prioritise Wellbeing:
Assessing Detrimental Situations: Is Not Going an Option?
If a situation is likely to be detrimental to you and your child, consider whether opting out is an alternative. Prioritise your wellbeing and your child's in situations that may compromise Gentle Parenting principles.
Stay Solid in Your Parenting:
Uphold Gentle Parenting Choices with Confidence
Stay true to your choices and the knowledge gained through Gentle Parenting. Communicate your approach confidently, acknowledging that you can seek advice if needed.
Addition: Reiterate, "This is how we are choosing to parent. We will ask if we need advice or help."
Balance Theirs and Your Needs:
Harmonising Enjoyment and Child's Wellbeing
Consider your child's sensitivities and needs. Set limits in situations where your child may struggle—whether due to fatigue, illness, or discomfort with change or social settings. Strive for a balance that ensures both you and your child can enjoy the holiday season.
Focus on What Matters:
Stress-Free Holidays: Prioritise Meaningful Moments
If overwhelmed, question whose expectations you're trying to meet. Remember, the essence of the holiday season lies in spending quality time with your children.